Note: I wrote this more as a way to organise my thoughts on this topic than as a post, but I decided to post it because someone might benefit from it.
The question of what to focus on is one that I’ve been thinking about on and off for a while. Do you focus on the present moment or on the future the big goals that you want to achieve. Should you aim to maximise you experiences in the present moment or is it to maximise what you can experience in the future. We all want to enjoy our lives and the narrative that we hear continuously is to work hard now so we can have a great results later. It can be a year or 3 or 10 in the future. I suppose that is highly individual. Is training everyday worth the performance result you get? Is losing sleep worth the gain in starting that business. Is the rigid diet worth the body composition gains? Is the missing time with your family worth the potential benefits that your job provides? The answer to that is highly individual. What you believe to be a worthwhile price for something might not be a worthwhile price to me. What do you value more? Your experience in the present moment, the time in your life that is happening right now or do you value the future, the possibility of what could happen. It is a gamble we don’t know what could be, when we bank on the future we are making an educated guess and the fact is we might not make the future you could die today and not experience this magical future that you envision. So are you doing enough to enjoy your life now? Conversely you could live till you’re 90 and if you didn’t prepare for the future , like taking care of your meat vehicle, because you were so focused on enjoying the now that you can’t enjoy life when you are at that stage.
So what do you do? I don’t know. Life is great right now, it could be better but it is great and sometimes I feel I’m not enjoying it enough because I’m doing too much for the future. I have ambitious goals and I do enjoy perusing them but it can also be a trap that takes you out of the now.
Are my goals worth the sacrifice?
Is the price that you pay today worth the reward you might receive later?
If I die now am I okay with the way I’m spending my life?
If the answer is no, then you have to make changes. This will be a process and not instantaneous, but start doing things to change your life for the better
Is the experience uniform?
Our lives are made up of different facets. And our focus, levels of difficulty and strain is not the same. We might be sacrificing in one or two areas but not all areas. Is working towards your goals uniformly shit? Any process has its ups and downs and even a good process and a worthwhile goal might have more downs than ups before you reach it. The question is; is your process all downs? Is it a continually negative process? Does it have negative effects in other areas of your life? Bad experiences aren’t inherently bad, it’s how we experience them.
Find your balance
You have to find a balance that works for you. You have to be happy with your life now. You have to enjoy your current experience and if you don’t you have to get change, which is a goal unto itself and a process. You have to find purpose in your process. There might be struggle and difficulty but having a belief in you process will make it better. You must enjoy the process of getting your goals.
The key I believe is as my friend John – William puts it, “Ruthless self - evaluation” Evaluate yourself, what you are doing. Your processes, habits and rituals? Are they conducive to living the life you want? This keeps you in check and on the right path.
To simplify this long discussion:
1. Ruthlessly evaluate yourself regularly; your goals, plans, processes, habits, the people you spend time with. What you do on a daily basis, what you want to achieve.
Be honest with yourself, if you can’t do it, ask for help from good friends.
2. Take massive consistent action in moving in the direction you want to. It might not be perfect but something is better than nothing. Do something daily to get to where you want to be.
3. You are only guaranteed now. You only have this moment in time. The future is a maybe, you have to be happy with what you are doing with your time. This doesn’t mean neglect the future, but what you do now must be time well spent.
4. Most importantly: ENJOY CHASING YOUR GOALS!
More than this I don’t know.