"You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone, and we are all part of the same compost pile." Chuck Palahniuk; Fight Club
There are too many weak, fragile and easily offended people in this world. These are snowflakes. Too many people have not experienced any difficulty or struggle in their life. This culture of everybody is a winner is bullshit. You are not entitled to anything. You don’t deserve shit. You have to earn things. You have to work for stuff.
Too many people expect things to happen. The world doesn’t give a fuck about what you expect, it doesn’t give a fuck about your feelings. Too many people expect results without effort and feel they have a right to get offended by something, and the fact that they are offended means something. People are so easily offended by petty shit that the things that are truly offensive, and where action needs to be taken, loses its effect.
This ‘everything is amazing or everything is terrible’ -attitude is bullshit. No, Susan, your day wasn’t terrible because you had to sit in traffic. It might have been annoying, bad even, but not terrible. Terrible is not having a job to go to, not having water to drink, and living in a warzone. Your life is far from fucking terrible.
The truth is that the world is a better place than it was a couple of hundred years ago. You don’t have wild animals killing people everywhere you look. Whole towns aren’t being wiped out by the plague. Genghis Khan isn’t murdering half of Asia.
People don’t do enough difficult shit, so their day seems difficult and challenging. The closest thing most of us have to struggle is doing difficult physical activities in training, and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. It is an amazing feeling that you have after doing something really difficult like sprinting up a hill, dragging a sled, hiking up a mountain, running like the devil is chasing you, squatting a heavy weight and feeling like you are going to be crushed. You realise that maybe, just maybe life is not that tough. You’re still alive, you can still do something about it.
How about we stop feeling sorry for ourselves. How about we stop being fragile little snowflakes and become anti-fragile.
Let’s build the anti-fragile muscle
In his book Antifragile, Nassim Taleb talks about fragile, robust and antifragile systems.
When there is disorder/chaos/struggle fragile things break, robust things survive and anti-fragile things improve. Human beings have the power to be anti-fragile. We can gain from the disorder. We can get stronger. It is exactly like training a muscle. Lift a weight (apply a stressor), the muscle adapts and can then lift more weight (gain from the disorder). We do this through our habits, our mindset and our training. It is our self-talk, our work ethic, and our way of life.
Do difficult things: run hills, take an ice bath, squat heavy, drag a sled, run a 10km. Do that thing that challenges you, that thing that makes you think you are going to die, the thing that you think you can’t finish which in your mind is the worst thing ever - but once you finish you realise it was doable. That is how you inoculate yourself against mental weakness - that is how you stop being a SNOWFLAKE.