We are products of our environment. Jim Rohn is responsible for the well-known quote, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”. Are these people positive influences? Do they have the same values, drives and ambition as you? Do they support you in what you do and achieving your goals? Do they inspire you to do more with your life? If you surround yourself with positive, driven and focused people, those qualities will influence you in a good way. Surround yourself with lazy and unmotivated people that will rub off on you too.
The flipside to that is. You are one of those 5 people to someone else. Are you a good influence? Do you help the people around you reach their potential? Sometimes we focus so much on ourselves and what we need to do, we forget that we influence other people. If you’re constantly negative and complaining that life is tough and how you’re struggling, the people around you are also influenced by that. That’s not saying you always have to be a ray of sunshine or nice. We all have challenges, but how do we handle them. Do you get annoyed or complain a bit, then get over it and do something about it? Or do you just complain and wallow in your sorrows. We also don’t have to be a supportive and focusing on the good, we also need friend who call us on our bullshit to help us be better. We all want to grow and our environment plays a huge role in that. If we do well and focus on growing and improving we set an example and provide a positive influence for those around us. If we surround ourselves with similar people we help ourselves and others grow.
So be a positive influence on those around you. Surround yourself with people who have a good influence on you and live the way you want to. Nobody is perfect though and no one is going to be exemplary in every way. We all have flaws, but how we improve is firstly wanting to improve, secondly our environment (people, lifestyle, media we consume). Finally be honest, with yourself and your friends. We can only do something about the things we know about. What you say may not be “nice” but as long as its sincere and your reason for doing so is to help that person.
Grow and help others grow.